The Q's & A's of a child...

As a single parent, one of the things we fear the most are questions from our kids. Now, later, then, when…

It’s what hits all of us the deepest and our haters use them against us due to ignorance and lack of understanding. The worst one being, “think about your child!”

Fears of being questioned by our own kids, such as “mami, why are you and papi not together?” are also a huge driving force keeping many of us in unhappy marriages. Which, in my opinion, are worse for children than being in single parent households with one happy, fully functioning single parent.

In my house, the questions have come and many more will, I’m sure, and I have to make an attempt to make sense of my actions in a 4 year old’s level of comprehension. Now let’s not be ignorant here, we have to admit our kids know AND understand more than we think they do.

I have always talked to David, whether its him asking or me wanting to know how he feels about our situation. I have come to learn that communication is key and it shouldn’t matter if you’re “boss, in the driver’s seat, captain, or the adult” one should always take in consideration the feelings of the “employee, passenger, commander or the child”.

David will be leaving soon to visit my family in California then from there they will be taking off to El Salvador. I have been asked why am I not going and many other things.

My David understands I am not with his father and I am with someone else but from the jist of it has questions a to why his father isn't near him and it's perfectly understandable..I mean wouldn't you like to know why your father isn't near you? Im going to refrain from stepping in for him and continue to let David wonder until he asks himself. I am sure David will have even more questions to ask when he returns...

Until then let's always try to talk to our kids and hear them out, no matter what the age....Love Nuria